An inflection point is a point on a curve at which the sign of the curvature (i.e., the concavity) changes. Inflection points may be stationary points, but are not local maxima or local minima (within some neighborhood that need not be, but may be, a global maximum or minimum). Why do I bring this up? On one hand, knowing basic calculus terms may help out in life (trivia night, cocktail party, you name it). And on another hand, I feel it clearly defines my life path, where I didn’t completely change directions, I just changed how I’m getting there. I wanted to share my path because maybe it will make someone feel a little less “weird” about their life, or maybe just because it will actually make me feel better to get it out there.
It’s hard not to feel pressure to conform and to compare oneself these days, amidst the ever-growing social media presence in our lives. I do it all the time: “why did it take me forever to start my career?”; “why don’t I have kids (yet or at all), when all my friends are having them?”; “why don’t I have, in absence of the kids, six-pack abs and all the coolest clothes?”; you get the point and I know you have had similar self-deprecating thoughts, we all do. So like I pointed out early on in the 2018 and the Tale of the Do-Over post, life have changed as of late and that is alright, it does that from time to time.
Of note and in true Crane Wife fashion, below are the major ones that collectively make up the inflection point.
On the rise to inflection, let’s call it concave down, we were: considering when to have kids; trying to train an unruly but very lovable German Shepherd; struggling to keep a 60-year old, 4-bedroom house in the suburbs clean and maintained; and lazily passing the days watching TV and eating too much without exercising nearly enough, if at all. On the rise after inflection, let’s call it concave up, we: decided (for many reasons) not to have children; lost unruly Sammy to lymphoma at the age of 5; sold our house after living there for almost 6 years; bought a new three-story condo in a developing area close to downtown and within 2 miles of both our jobs; and began a regular gym routine (and are still maintaining a healthier TV routine as well). We really changed a lot about our lives in a short period of time, so here we go on the upswing of the curve, as I like to think of it. I hope you are also on your upswing. And if not, don’t worry: you’ll get there.